Why does love die?
Why does love die if love never dies?
People say that true love never dies. And so we live hoping for the happy endless love. How then does it happen that seemingly love dies, slips through the fingers? "Was there death of love or had he/she just left me, with love not gone?” - both answers are hard to understand.
When we are in the hurting situation of lost love we ask ourselves: "Where has the love gone?" Not WHY, but WHERE. After being absolutely crazy in love, we just cannot believe into the complete end of love, the death of all feelings and memories.Then what really happens to it, if love never dies?
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A word about adultery
Rod Dreher
I've been thinking a lot over the past day about why I have such intensely strong emotional reactions to news about adultery, comparable to my fierce reactions to news about child abuse. If my wife ever committed adultery, under most circumstances (i.e., true contrition and repentance), I won’t stop loving her and I would hasten to forgive her, because I would see it as my duty, in love, to do whatever I could to make our marriage whole again, for the sake of the children.
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The feeling that is not everlasting cannot be called “love”
Priest Ilia Shugaev
You didn’t stop loving, love didn’t end, it just never came. It’s just that the flood of new
emotions has stopped, the feelings have cooled down, and ‘falling in love’ (but not ‘love’) is
developing into something else, something much deeper.
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Work hard if you want to keep love
Psychologist Irina Rakhimova
Infatuation is a superficial feeling which cannot stay for a long time. Love is checked by time. 10-15 years is
considered to be a border line when we understand that the person will not leave or betray us and that we can
put our trust in him/her. A blending of two people occurs on all levels – on physical, emotional and spiritual. Full version
Was the girl that left your Juliette?
Archpriest Igor Gagarin
Thus, having met a person you can have a feeling of infatuation but you can make very little of
him (her), as you can see only a part of the personality, moreover you can see the part this
person chooses to show you and your imagination is making up the rest, the part you can’t see.
It is clear that your vision may not agree with the real object...Full version
Once in true love we cannot stop loving
Priest Andrew Lorgus
If the dearest one leaves you, it doesn’t mean they stop loving. Here we have a change of heart,
but not a change in the heart. It is quite possible that true love still exists there in the
heart and what is more, I’m absolutely sure it’s impossible to stop loving, a human heart isn’t
able to stop it...
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Everything that God allows to happen to us has some meaning
Evmeniy (Peristyi), Abbot
In some sense, infatuation is the “Koschey disease”. Koschey Immortal, the character of Russian folk tales, is
a creature whose life strength lies not within himself but elsewhere. This is a reason why his life is always
in danger. This is what typical for infatuation state, that is, sense of our life lies in other person.Full version
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